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Online Courtship Guide & Principles: Profiling Disclosure, Personals and Pictures

So you’ve grown virtual balls, realizing and accepting that the internet may be your best bet in getting laid if not at least a date for next weekend. You’ve read the first part, and done your research of which network(s) has the fish pond ideal for you. Before you can cast your pole and start fishing, it’s time to proceed to the first preliminary action stage: Profiling.

That’s right, you’ll need to create a profile complete with some basic personal information and upload a photo or two. Were you expecting that you would just click a few magic links, and Miss (or perhaps Mister) Perfect would come knocking on your door after an hour? While effective internet introductions aren’t that simple, it will become a breeze once you get the flow of the Art and Science of it. Lets face it guys, with all the lonely perverts flooding the internet, you got some intentional effort yet to invest before most targets will even look at, let alone interact with (virtual) you.

For those handful of paranoid lurkers hesitating to create your profile, reasoning that the CIA is tracking you down for something as silly as running a red light–an internet profile being just what they needed to bust you: knock yourself upside the head a few times until all that irational logic is left behind in the bin along with last night’s stained semon rags. If the CIA were after you, they’ve already got enough on you from the hidden cookies left on your computer after visiting those pedophilic porn sites anyway.

That said, you don’t want to reveal too much personal information on your profile. Most courters and courtesans alike seek some level of a chase or challenge, and you want to ensure your potential mates invest the effort to find out about you from their own curiosity to some extent. Lets say you publish your entire autobiography on your profile. Even if some uninteresting hermit manages to read all about your disclosed life storey in one go, you’ve left no room for mutual interaction of the mating chemistry that will provide the spark you seek. No mystery equals little room to create history.

Not too little information is recommended either. Some folks offer little to no personal information on their profile. This leaves an impression that the person has something to hide and will deter many potential seekers whom otherwise might have blossomed into something. Bottom line, you need a balance of personal disclosure that assures your browsers you are not a spamming pedophilic terrorist, while also leaving room for mystery which aims to spark inquisition and substance for dialogue.

No matter what you end up writing on your profile, the classic adage ‘A picture is worth a thousand words’ is true as ever for internet dating. Many people won’t likely read any of your profile information, at least not until they’ve browsed your photo section several times and decided whether or not they are physically attracted to you or not. In other words, don’t expect to get far without a picture. Most importantly, be honest, use your own photos. What’s the point of lying? You’ll have to face the music eventually, and if you thought that cheating will benefit you to get more bites, you’ll only end up cheating yourself in the end!

So what kind of pic will do the trick? How many profile photos is appropriate? It all depends. Though one good image that captures the essence of your best—the most casual and natural visual impression of ‘you’ might be enough to attract some bites, still it is recommended you have a few pics, preferably with different angles, lightings, and settings to provide a more diverse and colorful image to your targets.

From here, It’s all about a patient game of fishing. Each social network varies in the exact structure to fish, but they are all similar in that they allow you to send private messages as well as give public comments and compliments. There is no one successful method which works the best for everyone. As any Science requires, the only way to learn which way works the best for you is experimentation.

Ensure to be mindful of your words and messages. While you want to express attraction and interest in your target–after all that’s why you’re here– you don’t want to come off as desperate or obsessive. Considering the diversity of the vast virtual mating playing field, creativity will certainly come in handy. Trust me, most girls online aren’t turned on by photos of your genitals coupled with shallow messages of hormone driven compliments that probably a thousand other guys already told them. Be sure to read their profile and show interest in their interests (if in fact you are sincere).

Again, honesty is key. Be honest with yourself and realistic about your expectations. The rest is all trial and error. If you offer the right bate, some fish are bound to bite. You won’t get every fish you desire biting, but like they say, ‘there are plenty of fish in the sea,’ and the internet is certainly no exceptional sea. So often it’s a matter of tempo, flow and perhaps destiny. Adhere to these wise words, and soon you’ll be exchanging emails and phone numbers with your next date. Happy Fishing!

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